Friends in School: The Good, The Confusing, and The Real

 

School isn’t just about learning maths formulas or writing essays, it’s also where we meet people who shape us, hurt us, teach us, and sometimes stay in our lives long after we graduate. Friends in school can be your safe place, your biggest distraction, or a bit of both.

1. The friends who feel like home

These are the people you sit with at lunch without thinking twice. You don’t have to force conversations; they just flow. They know when you’re upset even if you say “I’m fine.” They make school feel bearable on days you want to stay in bed forever.

If you have friends like this, cherish them. Tell them you appreciate them. Sometimes we forget to do that, thinking they just know – but it still matters to hear it.

2. The friends who drift away

It’s normal for friends to drift apart, especially in school. Maybe you were close in Year 7 but barely talk now. Maybe your classes changed, your friend group shifted, or you just became different people.

It can feel sad, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean the friendship wasn’t real. It just means it served its purpose in that season of your life. People grow, and that’s part of life too.

3. The friends who aren’t really friends

Sometimes, we keep people in our lives just to avoid being alone. You might notice they talk behind your back, only come to you when they need something, or make you feel bad about yourself in subtle ways.

If you leave an interaction feeling drained, anxious, or like you have to pretend to be someone else – it might be time to rethink that friendship. Real friends make you feel safe, not small.

4. Making friends can feel hard

If you’re someone who struggles to make friends, you’re not alone. School can feel like everyone already has their groups. But friendships don’t always start with big gestures. They often start with small things – a smile, asking about homework, sitting next to someone new in class, or sharing a snack.

Not every attempt will turn into a lifelong bond, but each one builds confidence to keep trying.

5. Friends change you – for better or worse

Who you spend time with shapes your habits, mindset, and how you see yourself. If your friends motivate you, respect your boundaries, and support your goals, they’re helping you become a better version of yourself.

But if your friends always put you down, encourage risky behaviours you’re not comfortable with, or ignore your feelings, it’s okay to outgrow them. You’re allowed to choose what energy you let into your life.

6. Be the kind of friend you want

At the end of the day, the best way to attract good friends is to be one yourself. Listen when people talk. Check in on them. Celebrate their wins and support them when they’re struggling. Don’t gossip about them behind their back. Be honest and kind.

Because in school – and in life – friendships built on trust and genuine care are the ones that last beyond the classroom

Final thoughts

School friendships can be beautiful, complicated, and messy all at once. Some will fade away after graduation. Some will turn into deep lifelong connections. Some will teach you hard lessons about who you are and what you deserve.

No matter what stage you’re in, remember: you are worthy of friendships that feel safe, supportive, and real. Keep showing up as your authentic self, and the right people will find you.