You Don’t Have to Be “That Girl” to Be Enough 

 Hey love,

Let’s talk about something that’s been on your mind  even if you haven’t said it out loud.

Every time you scroll through your feed, there she is. “That girl.” The one with the perfectly toned body, color-coded life, morning smoothie routine, and glowing skin. The one who always seems to have it together. And even if you try not to compare yourself, a little voice whispers: Why can’t I be more like that?    

It’s exhausting, isn’t it?

Here’s the truth no one says enough: you don’t need to become someone else’s version of “perfect” to be worthy. You don’t need the matching sets, 5 a.m. workouts, or aesthetic lifestyle to feel proud of yourself. You don’t have to shrink, smooth, filter, or fix who you are to fit some invisible standard.

You’re already enough.
Right here. As you are.

The world will keep throwing messages at you, louder and louder,  telling you that you need to be prettier, skinnier, smarter, more productive, more “put together.” And every time you try to keep up, it just moves the goalpost again.

But here’s the secret: confidence doesn’t come from becoming someone else. It comes from coming home to yourself.

You build it in quiet moments when you speak kindly to yourself after a rough day. When you wear something that feels like you, not what you think you should wear. When you stand up for yourself. When you rest, even when the world says you should be “grinding.” 

And yes, some days it will feel messy. You’ll doubt yourself. You’ll overthink. You’ll look in the mirror and not love what you see. But those days don’t make you weak. They make you human.

You don’t need to change yourself to be liked or loved. The right people will meet you in your softness, your awkwardness, your weird little quirks — and they’ll love you because of them, not in spite of them.

So take a deep breath. You’re allowed to take up space. You’re allowed to be a work in progress. You’re allowed to be proud of small wins and quiet growth.

Being “that girl” isn’t the goal.
Being yourself  fully, freely, and unapologetically  is.

And you’re doing a lot better than you think.
So give yourself some grace. Be gentle. Be real.

You don’t have to be perfect to be powerful.

With love,
Someone cheering for you